Who Wasn't There

🐙Writer, Collector of Antiquities, and Bibliophile.
🐙Co-Creator of FindChaos & ChaosLife comics.

🐙All-Around Weirdo.
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Asker Anonymous Asks:
You're post regarding the existence of biological sex... perturbed me, to say the least, given the fact that you only cited intersex people as proof of this. I did some quick research on the subject and I learned that those fitting under the label intersex (not xx or xy, klinefelters, ambiguous genitalia, etc) and I found that such individuals make up around 1%-2% of the human population. As a result I must ask, and please understand this is an honest question, have you ever heard of an outliar?
whowasntthere whowasntthere Said:


Hello there.

Yes, I have heard of an outlier. I was fortunate enough to receive a high school education in mathematics, which got me fairly well-acquainted with the concept of outliers, multiplication, basic fractions, and Pythagoras’ bloody Theorem, among other things.

Now, please allow me to ask you a question:

Do you realise what you have just said?

It’s not a trick question, by the way. I am legitimately, apprehensively curious as to whether or not you realise exactly what it is you are suggesting to me. 

Did you know there are approximately seven billion people alive in this world right now? Approximately 7,255,000,000, and counting, in fact. 

And since you’re interested in maths, do you know what 1% of that number is?

It’s 72,550,000.

But that was an easy one. Do you know what 2% of that number is?

Of course you do. It’s 145,100,000. 

And do you realise what you have just said?

Would you like to know some other interesting statistics? I’m sure you would have answered yes, because you are a curious mind. Let’s talk about countries.

Did you know that Japan, Vietnam, Seychelles, Greenland, Germany, Australia, Palestine, Mexico, the United Kingdom, the Czech Republic, Switzerland, Afghanistan, South Korea, and France each have populations under 145,100,000 as of the most recent records.

Entire countries with fewer than 145,100,000 inhabitants. 

Did you know that, in fact, only nine countries have over 145,100,000 inhabitants? In order, those countries are China, India, the United States, Indonesia, Brazil, Pakistan, Nigeria, Bangladesh, and Russia. 

And so I will ask one more time, for emphasis: 

Do you realise what you have just said to me? 

I’m sure you know - being so well-versed in mathematics as you are - what happens to outliers. If nothing else, our dear friend Spiders Georg should have shown you what usually happens to outliers.

They do not get counted. They get ignored. They get deleted. 

What you have just said to me is this:

Approximately 145,100,000 people do not count to you. You do not respect them. You do not acknowledge them. You do not care about them. You see them as numbers. You see them as things, not people. You see them as less than yourself. 

I find that suggestion disturbing and repulsive in ways I can scarcely put into words, and frankly, I feel that same repulsion about you by association. What you have said to me is nothing short of disgusting and inhuman. I am so disappointed in you. 

However, you are quite right about me only citing a specifically intersex-oriented website. To be honest, that was because it was an easily accessible, informative read for people on the topic of physiological variation, to prove my point on there variation in the first place, and my thinking was that if people were curious and wanted to learn more about the fantastic spectrum of human existence, they were clever enough to, say, research it for themselves. To use the Google, as the kids these days call it. Perhaps that was a mistake on my part. Perhaps I shouldn’t have assumed that level of independent learning ability.

Seeing that you mentioned it, I assume you have looked into Klinefelter syndrome and ‘ambiguous genitalia’, and I therefore have absolutely no idea why you’re “perturbed” about this. 

The purpose of that post I made was to show that sexual morphology is not as simple as ‘male’ or ‘female’, and neither is it as simple as ‘penis’ or ‘vagina’. Gender is a spectrum, and so is sexual morphology. 

This may or may not come as a surprise to you, depending on whether or not you’ve actually seen other people’s junk, but almost no-one has the same junk as someone else. There is no factory where the Perfect Standard Junk gets made; there is no perfect standard junk. Even for people who are not considered ‘ambiguous’ or intersex, there is a lot of physical variation in every way you can think of, pretty much. 

And it’s all okay. That’s the point of this. 

People should never be shamed for their bodies. They should not be excluded or discriminated against or harmed or in any way made to feel lesser because their body is a bit different from yours. Like, for goodness’ sake. You shouldn’t need for someone to tell you that. 

And yet, here you are, telling me that 145,100,000 people are outliers.

Well, you know what? As far as I’m concerned, that’s 145,100,000 reasons to care about this. 

So it’s time to change your tune or go far, far, far away, you unbelievable wally. It’s your choice now.


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In response to the GoFundMe Campaign for Darren Wilson, people are asking GoFundMe to close the account due to the fact that it incites hate and obviously violates their terms and conditions

The donors and the comments attached to the campaign are sick and simply racist. They asking for the “Killing of Niggers”, “purging the savages” and to support a “fellow White” individual that has the right to murder Black people.

Pass this around. Report the Darren Wilson page as for the violation


I will add their contact info as soon as I find it. 

This is disgusting. He is almost at 200K in 4 days W T f is WRONG WITH PEOPLE


I can’t figure how to report it the report button doesn’t let me do much after I click it


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Asker Anonymous Asks:
How do you react to the idea of trans* homosexuals? I identify as a gay trans woman, and I've been told multiple times that it is unreasonable to expect to find gay women who would be ok with a relationship with me...
whowasntthere whowasntthere Said:

You identify however you feel comfortable identifying and fuck the haters. I know plenty of women, both trans* and not, who identify as queer.

You’ll run into some women that don’t wish to date you; everyone does, for a multitude of reasons. Some of theirs might be transphobia, plain and simple, but don’t dwell on it too long — they’re the ones who are missing out, not you. Heck, some people won’t even date brunettes, humans are weird beasts. 

Likewise, you’ll run into plenty of women who do want to date you and will accept you as who you are: a gay woman. It’ll all be just ducky!

Hi ladies! First you two are lovely and awesome and I have a picture of you guys (with the also lovely Tristan Risk) on my inspiration wall - which faces my bed and is one of the first thing I see when I get up in the morning. I really want to direct horror movies myself one day (as well as scifi and thriller - or a blend of all three) but so many people say I can't because I'm a girl. Any suggestions for a witty retort I can throw back at them?
whowasntthere whowasntthere Said:


Hello, wonderful girl surrounded by stupid people!

That is the most ignorant thing I’ve ever heard. Tell them that Alice Guy-Blache was a woman and one of the very first directors of fiction film and the very first woman director who went on to create The Solax Company, the largest pre-Hollywood studio in America, and she directed over 1,000 films, many of which were horror.

Mary Shelly created one of our greatest monsters, Frankenstein.

Baroness Emma Orcz created the first true super hero EVER, The Scarlet Pimpernel.

I usually tell them that say dumb shit like that not to speak unless it improves the silence. Or that they’re so cute when they’re not speaking. Don’t ruin it with talk.

You can be and do anything you want to. Regardless of gender. Never let someone else tell you otherwise because more often than not, they’re someone who’s given up on their own dreams or are too scared of failing to even try.

Great advice as always from the Soska sisters. If I may add: Some women-directed horror movies for you to throw in people’s faces as retort, dear wonderful girl that’s surrounded by stupid people: Organ, American Psycho, Jennifer’s Body, Ravenous, Silent House, Pet Semetary and The Captured Bird, just to name a few personal favorites. But most importantly, just get out there and make ‘em all scream. 


Asker Anonymous Asks:
What's your take on the whole recent(?) TERF movement? Specifically, how they keep saying that it's fine to dress and act how you like, as long as you accept that you are [insert assigned gender here] and don't claim to be otherwise. This apparently includes things such as expecting trans* women to keep out of "women's spaces" such as female bathrooms etc.
whowasntthere whowasntthere Said:

Interesting question.

This is my take on TERF’s: 

Asker Anonymous Asks:
Hey! This will come across as awkward as awkward can be. I'm a mostly closeted girl, and I've only dated guys before. Recently I asked a girl to a dance. She said yes! Then I realized: I have no idea how to slow dance with a girl. I know it should be intuitive but what can I say, I'm dumb. My main question is, where do I put my hands? Shoulders? Waist? Hands??
whowasntthere whowasntthere Said:

Not awkward at all, and congratulations on your dance/dance partner!

Don’t freak out too much about it, it probably will be very intuitive. However, if you’re both having anxiety about it, take the lead! Ask her to dance, be the one that leads her to a spot on the dance floor, and take the leading position right away: one hand on her waist, one hand holding her hand (this will allow her to put her other hand on your shoulder — you can even gently place that one for her if you like). 

Or you could get a little more intimate and put both hands on her waist, allowing her to adjust her arms to any position she wanted around your shoulders/neck. 

Honestly, I’ve seen couples dance a multitude of ways and even fumble at the beginning, but you guys will sort it out and end up dancing just as awkwardly as everyone else in no time!