This is an awkward question but I don't know who else to go to for advice about this and I like the way you answer questions so... is one expected to shave/wax one's nether regions if one is a lesbian? I really don't want to do that, because my skin gets infected really easily and I hate stubble. I already keep everything trimmed so that I can wear a bikini without any escaping hair. (I'm 17 and have never been in a relationship/had the sex, btw.) Is this a turn off for most ladies??
Of course you don’t have to shave/wax if you don’t want to! That’s certainly not a requirement to be a lesbian (or any other sexuality) and it’s certainly not a turn-off for the vast majority of people. In fact, a lot of people prefer hair down there!
Nether regions come in all kinds of beautiful degrees of hair — from nothing at all to fuzzy to heart-shaped to gorgeous locks spilling out all over the place. It’s all a matter of personal preference and comfort, not arbitrary rules that people impose on you. They should just be happy that you’re giving them a peek at your gloriousness to begin with!
And if anyone ever gives you a hard time about doing something you’re not 100% comfortable with — whatever that might be — remember, they’re a jerk. You don’t owe someone perfectly bare privates any more than you owe someone a million dollars. It’s your body. If they don’t like it, they don’t deserve your sweetness.
From what I’ve seen of them, they both have similar elements (as any horror movies do), but I tend to like Korean horror movies for their outright focus on characters, especially dark or violent characters.
In my personal ‘Scary Ratio’ opinion, Japanese horror movies will fuck with your head, but Korean horror movies will just plain fuck you.
it’s so weird that people are shaming Beyonce for being sexual during her performance when literally in the speech in flawless says “We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that boys are." Like how do you miss the point that bad
hello. :D but yes, i see you have been tagging lgbt+ stuff with gsrm? i would like to kindly point out that that is actually pretty problematic, as gross men used it to include pedophilia, kinks, and even rapists, the man who actually coined the acronym was a pedophile. a better acronym would be "mogii" it stands for "marginalized orientations, gender identity, and intersex". have a nice day!
THIS IS NOT TRUE.
The term ‘sexual minorities’ was coined by Lars Ullerstam in his essay “The Erotic Minorities: A Swedish View”. This book DID include sexual deviants, including pedophiles, ‘kinksters’ and sexual abusers in its definition of sexual minorities. He did NOT, however, coin the term GSRM, in which the term ‘sexual minorities’ has been reclaimed and redefined by the queer community.
Is it still TMI Tuesdsay? 'Cause I was hoping you have advice for shaving the nether regions without being bombarded by red itchy bullshit -_-
I’m sorry, the nethers can be so senstive to grooming! I wrote this for a good friend a while back, so it’s not my most poetic or accurate writing and is littered with things I had hoped would make them laugh. Maybe you’d find it useful? And if anyone has anything to add or correct (nicely), go right ahead, these are just my personal tips.
Hey K! Over the last year I've identified as queer, even had girlfriends, yet since I'm a femme lesbian, people I don't know and even friends who I've told still just assume I'm straight/confused due to my outward appearance. I was just wondering if you've had to deal with similar situations? I mean, I've hinted so hard to people and they still don't get it. It doesn't really offend me more so that it annoys the crap out of me, since I know I don't need to look a certain way to be valid. Sigh.
Unfortunately, yes, I’ve been in very similar situations (and still often am). Doubly unfortunately, that’s kinda just life.
Your validity will always be questioned.
Especially if you’re a woman and especially if you identify as queer in any way. If your outward appearance was more masculine, people would question your validity as a woman at all. If you said you liked video games, people would ask for a laundry list of titles to validate your affections. Fuck, even if you said you preferred ice cream over cake, people would still say “Well, what about cheesecake or ice cream cake, huh?”
No matter how much you change yourself to fit ridiculous stereotypes, no matter how many game titles you rattle off, no matter how many stories you tell about barfing up cake — the same people who questioned you will find fault or continue to question any way you identify. Some of these people aren’t bad, just annoying or need a good dose of shut up juice.
But here’s the good news:
You know yourself better than anyone.
So the next time sometimes questions your validity, whether it’s because you appear feminine and identify as queer or because you hate cake, look them straight in the eye and tell them I’m pretty fucking sure I know myself better than you do.